Goodbye Addison

[flipflop_diva]

I can't believe after tonight I will have no more Addison in my life. I'm crying just thinking about it. I know there are other shows and other characters, but I have never fallen in love with any fictional character the way I love her. And I am going to miss her so, so much. Even when Private Practice wasn't very good, and we bitched about her not getting enough screen time, I still always loved her.

Last Thursday, I got online to talk to sweetone41185 about something, and we ended chatting for four hours. On Twitter, some girl was doing her Top 7 Best & Worst things about Private Practice, all of which we strongly disagreed with. So we made our own. And did Grey's too. In honor of our last day of Addison, here is our list.



7 WORST THINGS ABOUT PRIVATE PRACTICE
7. Not using the connection Private Practice has with Grey's to the best extent they could.
Gah. This always makes me rage. Addie should have been there for Mark when he died. Derek and Mark should have been there when Addie's mom died. Derek should have come when Amelia relapsed. Callie and Bailey should be coming to Addie's wedding. Addie does mention Derek a lot and sends my headcanon into overdrive but if you only watched Grey's lately, you wouldn't even know she existed.

6. Wasting a crossover on Mason's mom.
I even like Charlotte and Cooper, and I like Charlotte learning to be Mason's mom, but to waste a crossover on his mom when she turned around and died a few episodes later? SMH. SO. MUCH.

5. Sam's reality show episode from this season.
Of all the character-centric episodes, that was the worst by far, and that is saying a lot. First of all, if you're going to write a storyline about reality TV, maybe actually watch some reality TV. REALITY TV IS NEVER THAT BORING. Second, it was just a dumb idea that was never brought up again and had no bearing on anything else ever. All the stuff that happened with his parents? It could have happened without the stupid reality TV concept. And it should have.

4. Naomi being a bitch to Addison, especially over Bizzy (and Susan).
I know Addie is not the world's greatest friend by any stretch, but neither is Naomi. Yes, Addie crossed a line when she started dating Sam, but Naomi SAID SHE WAS OKAY WITH IT. If you aren't okay with it, then don't lie and say you are! But the part that really bugged me was when Addie was upset because of Bizzy wanting to marry Susan and Naomi started going off on her about how Bizzy was a loving person and how Addie was just being difficult and on and on and on. But for someone who has known Addison since they were 22, she would KNOW that Bizzy wasn't loving to her. Addie's feelings were totally valid, and Naomi should have been a friend and not made her feel worse.

3. Maya's wedding.
Don't even get me started on this. Ashley and I bitched about this for almost 45 minutes last week. I didn't even think I had so much rage left, but I do. What a horrible, horrible, horrible storyline portraying teen pregnancy. Maya got pregnant at 15, so her parents THREW HER A FAIRYTALE WEDDING. What? No. Just no. Just so much no. There is supporting your child, but there is also rewarding her, and this was just so many levels of wrong, I cannot.

2. The whole Noah storyline.
God, I hated that storyline. I hated it because I never bought for a second that they loved each other (probably because the writers never bothered to show us how they fell in love). But I mostly hated it because I felt Addie was entirely OOC. Here was a woman who was still so torn up by how she ruined her marriage and ruined her life and was still struggling with feeling like an awful person for it. So what does she do? Gets involved with a married man whose wife is her patient and actually thinks about having an affair? What? No. There is no way. I still don't buy that an IC Addison would have ever done that.

1. The ruining of Sam (Addisam)
Ughh. And I liked Addisam. And I wanted it to happen. The only thing Ashley and I ever really disagreed on. But then they got together, and he went from this amazing, great, loving friend to constantly treating her like crap, over and over and over. Which sucks, but honestly? If that's how the writers wanted to go, I could have been okay with it. I mean, I still would have hated every second on Addie's behalf, but I could see it as a storyline choice. Except that isn't what happened. Because the writers seem to think that Sam is some shining beacon of a "good man" and pretty much every episode someone is telling him that. And not even in an ironic way! And I just ... I can't. And I hate Sam more than almost any character ever now. Thanks a lot, PP.



7 BEST THINGS ABOUT PRIVATE PRACTICE
7. The friendships between the girls and the friendships between the guys
There aren't enough of these scenes to make me happy, but I love the friendships when they are really being friends. Like giving Charlotte her impromptu baby shower. Or teaching Addison about masturbating (sadly, not nearly as dirty as that sounds). Or Addie and Naomi eating away their sorrows with cake and candy.

6. The kitchen scenes
This kind of goes with the one above, but I love when they're all together, and you can see that they're friends and why they're friends, and these moments are usually cute and sweet and funny. And, oh gosh, I wish we had way less Addisam and way more friend moments on this show.

5. Adding Amelia
I love the relationship between Addison and Amelia. I love that there is someone else there who knows her and knows about her past, but more than that, Amelia knows her and doesn't judge her for it (unlike some of Addie's other so-called friends). Plus, I just love no-filter Amelia. She's loud and funny and honest and badass, and she just added something awesome to the show.

4. Jake/Addie
Okay, originally this was higher (Sorry, Ashley!), but then I was thinking about it, and although I am beyond excited that this is what we get for our canon end, I really would have been okay if she had picked no one. But since she didn't .... AKDSFHJDHFKDFKSDJK. Back in the summer, we were SO SURE we were going to not be able to watch this season because she was going to pick Sam, but she didn't. And Jake is awesome. I love Jake. I want a Jake of my own. Jake is probably her best canon love interest even if Addie/Derek will forever be my OTP. He's NICE to her (what a concept) and he loves her and he's been nothing but awesome. And tonight she's getting married, which is what she's wanted since the beginning, and the fact that it's to Jake could not make me happier.

3 Addie's family/backstory
One of the best things about getting PP was we finally, finally, finally got backstory on Addison beyond her being a trust-fund baby, and it not only lived up to all my expectations but it exceeded them. Archer and Bizzy and The Captain. Addie's childhood was so messed up and her family is so dysfunctional and I just want to give Addie the biggest hug because poor bb, but the episodes with her family in it were some of the very best PP episodes of all. Archer being a pig and sleeping with Naomi and intimidating Kevin. Addison having an epic meltdown when she found out her mother was a lesbian. Bizzy's funeral. The only thing that would be better were if Archer and The Captain were going to actually, you know, come to their sister/daughter's wedding.

2. Henry
I had begun to think this day was never going to come. Every other person on the planet got to be pregnant or had kids, but finally finally finally, after all the infertility treatments and the egg implantations and mothers deciding to give their child to another family, Addie finally got her baby. And he is adorable and she loves him so much and she is such a good mom, just as we always knew she would be, and I love seeing her be a mom, and I wish we could see it for longer but I'm happy we got to see it at all.

1. The epic crossover of epicness aka The Archer crossover
I still don't know what Shonda was smoking when she decided to give us these episodes. It started with Derek STOPPING HIS PROPOSAL TO MEREDITH TO GO HELP ADDISON. The tiny box speech. The chapel scene. THE SONG. The Hotdog Thanksgiving story. Addie & Derek screaming at each other in the OR and symbolizing why exactly I love them so damn much and why they will forever be my OTP. The orignal Fab Five. The kiss that got cut out but was in the promo and had MerDer fans in a rage (god, that was funny). Oh, man, I could go on, but best.episodes.ever. No contest.



7 WORST THINGS ABOUT GREY'S ANATOMY
7. MerDer
Sorry not sorry, but I will never see the appeal of them. And I will forever think that it would have been a much much much more interesting story to see Addie & Derek actually for real work on their marriage, even if it didn't work out in the end because ultimately he's a douche and she is awesome

6. Mama Shepherd
I had such high expectations for her, too, so this one pains me! But of course her visit had to be all about showing how "true love" Meredith and Derek are and how totally awful Addie is. It'd be one thing for her to not like Addison after what she did, but to not like her because she was rich? There is no way Derek's mom did not know what Addison's childhood was like, and to hold that against her when it is in no way her fault is just beyond mean. Hate hate hate hate hate.

5. "You're not my girlfriend."
I almost reached through the screen and killed someone. I get that they needed a way to make Addie run off to L.A., but in doing so, they took a storyline they had been actually really nicely building for an entire season and threw it away in a cheap one-night stand (which we barely got to see) and a brush off. All the moments I loved about them, and it was gone in a second. Fuck you, writers.

4. Denny coming back as a ghost
Needs no explanation

3. Gizzie
Worst idea ever

2. Meredith dying in the ferry episode and seeing ghosts
I hate when Shonda tries to be Joss because she so is not and will never be. Grey's was never ever ever in any way, shape or form a supernatural drama, and trying to make it so was just cringeworthy.

The musical
See #2. One of the worst episodes of TV I have ever watched, and that is saying a lot.



7 BEST THINGS ABOUT GREY'S ANATOMY
7. The shooting episode
That was actually really good. I barely watched Grey's after Addie left, but that was one of the few I would actually watch again.

6. The bomb episodes
And not just cuz I love Kyle Chandler, though that helps. But ughh. I loved these episodes. They were so good! Grey's at its finest.

5. The friendships
There are so many things that Grey's actually does right, and friendships is one of the biggest. Addie & Callie, Addie & Bailey, Derek & Mark, Alex & Meredith, George & Izzie (pre-Gizzie), George & Lexie. Sometimes it really is the little moments that matter the most.

4. The Fab Five 2.0
Okay, I admit it. I like the Fab Five. I don't necessarily like them all on an individual basis, but I like them all together. And I did watch Grey's from episode 1 of season 1, and it was the friendship between the five of them (NOT the Meredith/Derek stuff) that made ma fall in love with this show in the first place. Which leads to ...

3. Addison's entrance
"And you must be the woman who's screwing my husband." BEST ENTRANCE EVER. BEST SEASON FINALE CLIFFHANGER EVER. Little did I know it at the time, but that moment right there? It changed my life forever.

2. Epic crossover of epicness, aka The Archer crossover
The only thing worthy of being mentioned in both lists. It will forever go down as my favorite Grey's/PP episodes.

1. MADDEK (and Addison herself)
I will forever and ever always believe that the best thing Shonda ever gave us, apart from just giving us Addison, was giving us Maddek. God, how I wish we had more of them. I would give my right arm for NY flashbacks. But still. What we did get was perfect and amazing and so gloriously dysfunctional. The history and the complexity of their relationships and just the way the three of them can share a look or a touch or a smile ... there are a lot of different types of relationships on Grey's and PP, but nothing will ever compare to the relationship between Mark, Addison and Derek. OT3 forever <333


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ISA, I'M SO SADDDDDD! I'm gonna miss her sooooooo much!